Just when you think Bridezillas couldn't get any scarier, the New York Times reports on a gauche new wedding trend: The bridal cosmetic surgery party! Yep, now in addition to spending $300 on a ruffled puce dress, bridesmaids are being asked to have a little Botox, Restylane, and even boob jobs before the big day — and it's not even their big day.
“If I were 25 or 26 and getting married, a bracelet, necklace, or matching earrings would be fine,” says a bride-to-be who took her bridesmaids to a medspa. But at the ancient age of 35, it's no good: "As you get older, everyone is more conscientious about their skin and appearance. Giving them something for themselves — as opposed to something that they’ll never wear again — is more meaningful.”
The day my friend asks me to slice open my chest or get botulinum toxin jabbed into my forehead is the day I say, "Sorry, toots, but I can't be in your wedding." Do you feel the same way, or is this justifiable?
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1I seond that sporty. WTF?!
2What the hell kind of twisted, demented Bridezilla would demand her brideesmaids get cosmetic surgery?! Or even Botox???
3Seriously? People do this?
4I don't mean to get all philosophical on y'all, but...seriously, doesn't this freak you out in regards to marriage and why so many marriages are failing? I'm not saying this is a direct cause of it, but I'm sorry, if you're more worried about what your supposed 'best friends' look like on your wedding day versus, you know, the fact that you're getting married...then you might as well start filing for divorce papers as well.
5I third the WTF? It's very different than just getting a manicure.
6I completely agree, em.
7Em, it's probably actually true. That and people who spend too much time focusing on how big their ring is.
8If you are that shallow - why dont you just pick bridesmaids who you think are "prettier" ?
IMHO the only polite thing to ask your bridesmaid to purchase is a dress (and it should be chosen keeping the bridesmaids budget in mind). Everything else specific you want for your bridesmaid sshould be paid for by you - and should only be offered, never required.
I guess if you are getting married later in life, and offer a botox party for your bridesmaids (hey i did a mani pedi party for mine so I guess its not that different) its ok, if not appreciated by those who get, or want the injections. But to REQUIRE it goes beyond the limits of bridezilla.
9I completely agree em1282! This is ridiculous and I would say NO to my "friend" if she asked to do any of that.
10I agree that it's complete lunacy to demand your friends to go through that. I think if you all want to do it, aside from for the wedding, then whatever, do your thing. I would never demand this of my friends though. It should be a personal choice.
11It also seems really rude and likely to make your bridesmaids maybe not want to be your bridesmaids--isn't demanding they get some cosmetic procedure a bit like saying "I think you're too ugly/old/fat/flat"?
12I just don't understand what type of universe a girl who would did this lives in?
13Umm, who picked "sure, why not?"
14I'm scared
After asking me to be a bridesmaid, someone then asked if I would lose 15-20 pounds, with as much as possible preferably in the chest area, since I was bustier than the other bridesmaids and she wanted it to look more even, and the other bridesmaids were size 2s, and I was not.
I told her if she was more concerned with everyone looking the same than quality of friendship, then she was welcome to pick someone who did a better job of looking the part. And she did.
Shrug. My big old boobs and not-size-2-ass and I are much happier with friends who value us not on our appearance, anyway.
15not only would i say no, i would stop being that persons friend asap. i don't need that kind of shallowness in my life.
16No. Hell no. I can't imagine being friends with people who are the superficial in the first place.
17That not the.
18No. Freakin. Way. That is absurd and not only would I say no to the procedure, but I'd drop out of the wedding and of the friendship.
If a bride is that concerned about how her bridesmaids look, she should hire models instead of asking her friends and family.
19Holy cow. Julieulie, good for you for not taking that shabby treatment.
I will say: There are a few skin treatments that I would love to have but can't afford (microdermabrasionto deal with acne scars, things like that) and if a bride wanted to pay for those things I would totally take her up on it. But that's a) a more superficial procedure; and b) a condition that I already know I have. It's quite different to ask someone to get breast implants -- that's expensive, major surgery and presumably she's made her peace with her body.
And I am unlikely to get that offer ... none of my friends are that rich, just to start!
20WTF? That's so incredibly wrong!
21Seriously?
Plastic surgery and alterations for bridesmaids?!!
22WTF indeed !
23Where is this an up and coming trend? Manhattan?
I would first recommend where I think the bride should get some work: maybe a nosejob, tummy-tuck, boob lift and botox and then I would tell her to stuff it!
24Julieulie - you rock! I applaud you for standing up for yourself. That was so beyond rude!
And I would wonder...if these brides are so worried about how everyone looks, how is she going to feel about her husband later on in life? Is she gonna demand his-n-her facelifts on their 15th wedding anniversary or something? Geez!
25I second (third? fourth?) the thumbs-up to your decision, Julieulie. I just can't believe people would be so shallow.
26"it's more meaningful"?? no, it's not. Crazy, yes, that is the word.
27yeah, this is definitely a WTF moment!!! Martini-good point. I imagine hubby had to get some work done, too. I thought Brides went out of their way to look the best and prettiest at their own wedding. Does she want attention on her or everyone else. I guess it all has to be 'picture perfect'- gag!
This chic is gonna have lots of issues down the road. Let's hope she doesn't demand plastic perfection from any future children-ugh!
28OOOOh Sofi, nice picture!
29My opinion mirrors EM1282's!!!
People tend to lose the real meaning of marriage these days and focuses on things that do not matter nor contribute to a happy, healthy marriage. I am not married just yet...but geez, I hope to never be like that when I do.
30OMG...is this for real..
31that just really sad
that is SO ABSOLUTELY vein
32I don't mean to get all philosophical on y'all, but...seriously, doesn't this freak you out in regards to marriage and why so many marriages are failing? I'm not saying this is a direct cause of it, but I'm sorry, if you're more worried about what your supposed 'best friends' look like on your wedding day versus, you know, the fact that you're getting married...then you might as well start filing for divorce papers as well.
I do agree. Seriously.
33i'd be telling her to take that needle and shove it!!! and not in me!
34I agree with what most of the girls have said here. I've heard stories about brides asking their bridesmaids to lose weight before, and I just don't think it's acceptable.
When I ask someone to be in my wedding, it will be because I love them and want them to participate in that milestone with me, not because they'll look good standing up there with me.
35Is this for reals? It's one thing to take your gals to a spa to get their toenails painted or for a glowing facial, but are there really people out there who are that shallow??? I'm so glad I don't know these wackos! If anyone ever suggested that to me, I'd say, "You should get a new face for your ugliness" or "Go get a new brain - yours sure isn't working."
36em1282 has it right, they might as well have the ceremony and at the reception have a judge there to start the divorce proceedings!
37Insane! There is no way I'd be in their wedding if they asked me.
38That's pretty low. Kind of like saying, 'hey, you're ugly and fat." Who'd say that to someone!!??
39From the lady in the quote/interview, it sounds like it was something that all of the bridesmaids agreed to... I mean it would be ridiculous if she required them to, of course, but if she was like "hey instead of a bracelet would you prefer botox?" and they said yes, then why not? It's just a token of appreciation.
40Wow.
People are this screwed up then wonder why they are unhappy.
I find the whole thing reprehensible.
41That's insanity. I can't believe people would not only do that, but that the brides to be have the nerve to ask! What's wrong with these women?!
42No way in he!! would I get any of that done to me; that is crazy! I know where they can put that needle and it's not in my face.
43Ewww.... who are the 20 demented people who said yes?!? I'm sorry, but you make me SICK! That is turbo crazy.
44How do I put this delicately...HELL NO!
45this is hilarious!!! I cannot even imagine someone asking or following through with this.
46WTF? I'd give my friend the finger.
47If it was a requirement, then hell no!
Now I might say yes only if a) she was marrying a dentist who could teeth whitening, b) he was offering the treatment for free and c) it wasn't a requirement. This would be the exception because it's the only cosmetic procedure I've ever considered.
48I would get any spa treatment the bride wanted all of her bridesmaids to have, but not elective surgery. Elective surgery is a BIG deal and people die during procedures all the time. I will probably ask my bridesmaids to wear some hideous dress, but I know I won't ask them to die so that my wedding photos look stock photos of a wedding.
49well, i don't want to have surgery. i was kind of thinking about doing something to my forehead (but can't do anything while breastfeeding) and if someone was going to pay for that for me, i might have to say yes, just to try.
50(i have seen some great results with botox on other girls)
but no knives or going under! too scary once you have a baby to be there for!
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