After the wedding and the honeymoon, it's now The Honeymoon's Over week! I'm sharing all kinds of ideas to keep your married life as beautiful as your courtship.
When you're married (or just in a committed relationship), there are some grooming and beauty rituals you just can't hide from your sweetheart. That's not necessarily a bad thing, since sharing the mundane details of our lives can be healthy. At the same time, though, there's something to be said for keeping the romance alive, right? I always say, "If you wouldn't do it in front of your boss or best friend, don't do it in front of the person you love." Here's my advice on a few beauty secrets you may want to keep to yourself (while keeping yourself as pretty as ever).
The home bikini wax Just trust me on this one: Wait until Hubby is out of the house before getting started. Nobody looks or feels her best while hopping around naked, waving hot wax in the air and ripping out hair from delicate areas. Unless your "sexy time" involves wincing in pain and pulling tiny dried bits of wax off your skin (and hey, if it does, more power to you) it's probably easier to do this routine solo.
For three more beauty secrets best left unshared, read more
Zit popping Everyone gets blackheads and acne, but enlisting your man to help you conquer the Krakatoa-sized pimple on your nose is not the best way to keep the romance alive. (The one exception is if you can turn it into a fun spa treatment; Mr. Bella and I occasionally give each other facials, but I still don't let him pop my pustules).
Preparation H Models have claimed that using Preparation H on puffy eyes can reduce swelling. More women have heard about this unusual treatment than men, which means your husband is more likely to ask how your hemorrhoids are doing than to marvel at your puff-free eyes. Not sexy.
Nipple hair removal Oh, come on. Don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about! Most women have some nipple hair, and if you're okay with yours, leave it and love it. If you don't like it, though, you could find better ways to bond than by bleaching your nipple hair with your newlywed love.
What do you think? Are there any grooming or beauty rituals you'd rather not share with your beloved, or is it open game?
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Oh geez zit popping. I don't even like saying it. My roomate's brother and his girlfriend do this anywhere. Last time was at a bbq. I had to turn away.
I do enjoy my privacy though, and I don't like sharing bathroom time. I like to get in there, crank some music, and come out looking great with nobody knowing what happened while I was in there.
1I have to agree with jhuck on the zit popping. My fiance`'s brother and his wife lived with us for a couple months last year and every other night or so they would go into the bathroom and he would pop her zits and put cream on them. It was so disgusting.
2hahaha, i have to agree with you for all of these. i wouldn't want anyone to see me do these things, but especially not a boyfriend!!! i don't care how much he loves me for who i am, he does not need to see me pop my zits. ew!!
3Trying on five different outfits before selecting the first one you tried on - hubby doesn't need to know about the effort that goes into appearances.
Also, I'd prefer the non-existent hubby to see me putting on a myriad of skin care products (morning and night) followed by a plethora of eyeliner, shadow, mascara, tinted moisturizer, concealer, and foundation. If he thinks I'm naturally this fresh faced and dewy, I'm more than willing to shrug it off as "Oh, it's just moisturizer and foundation..."
4picking ingrown hairs on your bikini line... definately keep that private!
yes, i know its a horrible habit.... but its so addicting!
5Eww actually a friend of mine and her fiance do the zit popping thing it's so gross. She and I were in the bathroom fixing our makeup and she was like "eww a zit" I was like "it's not that bad just put some cover up on it" and she started messing with it then he came in and she was like "honey look at this zit isn't it disgusting I can't get rid of it!?" Then he was like "here lemme help" then he just popped it for her! I about died I was like "What are you doing!? That was disgusting!" and he was like "it's not the first time, I don't see the big deal it's just a zit I pop my own." They just like didn't get it I wanted to throw up.
6Great list Bella; Somethings should be left private.
7OMG, Pink_Lipstick, that's so gross, but I can't stop laughing!!!
Okay, seriously, though, and this is a little bit embarrassing, but when I was much younger and didn't know about waxing (I always shaved that area), I bought Nad's - that gooey gel stuff that is supposed to be painless (yeah right) - and I slathered it down there and then tried to rip it off and it hurt like a mother you-know-what. Well my hubby was in the other room watching basketball or something and came in the bathroom to see what all the fuss was about and there I was in a ball on the floor cringing. He ended up having to pull it off for me because I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Now I think it's hilarious, but at the time I thought I was going to die from the pain and the embarrassment. We were married pretty young and I'm sure he was thinking, "What the heck did I get myself into?"
8Hahaha me and my hubby do everything together... no shame!!!! I guess it just has to be comfortable for both people... but hey whatever works for you!
9seriously, it bugs the cap out of me when my boyfriend pops his pimples when I am in the room. Ewwwww!!! I even tell him that is best done in private lol
10hehe- this post is so funny!
the first trip my bf and i took together, he ended up having to participate in the ordeal that is combing my hair.. probably something i should have kept for myself!
my hair's naturally very very very curly (think diana ross meets poodle perm) and turns into a mass of frizz whenever i brush it. so my solution so far has been to comb it in the shower.
well after a couple of days of travelling (plane, then bus, then looong car trip), it finally got to the point where i started forming dreadlocks and i dont wanna go there.. lol
anyway- the very first shower we took together in this nice hotel turned into me standing under a stream of icy water cringing in pain with my boyfriend grunting as he tried to drag the comb through my tangled mane. by the time he was done, he had two fistfuls of ripped brown hairs and a very subdued look that said: "how are you not bald yet?"
11haha candy apple- talk about true love
12The boyfriend and I can pretty much do anything in front of eachother...and I'll spare you all and not list any examples haha. On the otherhand, a couple we know have some strict boundaries on what they will and will not do in front of eachother and we disgust them lol.
13My boyfriend actually asks me to pop his zits. Apparently, I'm better at it than he is.
14wow... nipple hair removal sounds like it would HURT!!!
15Hahaha what's so gross about some of this stuff?? I mean, sure zit-popping is definitely a private sort of thing, but bikini waxing is not that bad!
And for the record - my darling gets rid of any ingrown hairs on my bikini line for me! (Don't worry - he disinfects the needle first, and he's very gentle - I hardly feel it!)
16zit popping... my bf loves to squeeze my zits... even if I protest! men, weird huh?
17All I can say is--"ewwwww"!
18Totally agreed!
On a side note: Bella, you wouldn't by any chance have any photo credits/info on the leader photo for this article would you? (I know it's a long shot) It looks EXACTLY like the bathroom at the B&B that hubby and I spent our honeymoon in Mass., right down to the tile floor pattern and old radiator! How ironic would that be in this honeymoon article?
19hahaha i totally agree with you, we're together for 8 years and i always try to keep himself away all kinds of my "private" things such as hair removal, zit popping etc...
20haha candy apple that's funny. and anabanana i agree- i def keep the ingrown hairs to myself.. and it is addicting! i'd have to agree on the zit popping though- that's just an activity i prefer to keep private! i'm pretty sure it'd gross me out if someone did that for me.
21Lol, I don't know, I agree with cherika; me and mine do everything together, we are both completely comfy with each other, and it's great! That is a great list, though.
22Once you are married for several years, nothing phases you. My husband pops my zits. I can't stand to see him with one so I will pop his. What is wrong with us?
23Great list- nipple hair removal- thanks for admitting it!!!
24The zit thing... (shudder) my roomie is an estetition (sp) and does this for a living so has no shame in doing it on others.... I for the first time found one on my bf's back last time we were out on a boat and pointed it out and he said "get it!"... I hesitated but tried it thinking "my room-mate does it...." I don't think I can do it again... cringing just thinking about it!
Even though they aren't a big deal, my husband has never seen me shave my legs or pluck my eyebrows. He has seen me with mud masks on my face many times. He always does the same, fake horrified face.
25I think its all about people's level of comfort. My mom doesnt care, she could leave the bathroom door open regardless, no big deal to her. My dad on the other hand, would rather go upstairs to his bathroom and shut the door, then use the half bath by the living room and have people possibly hear him pee. and they have been married 30 years- but sometimes all barriers must come down when you are married- like when my dad had a stroke and couldnt walk at first without help. He tried to get to the bathroom without calling for her first and fell- the bruising all over one side of his body helped him figure out that when he needed her help, no matter how embarrassing- he would ask for it.
I dont know that I would pop my husband's zits, but I havent had to- he has good skin. He was home when I waxed the first couple of times- he knew what I was doing bc I was heating it up in the kitchen- I think he found oddly fascinating, having never lived with a gf before, he had never been exposed to this sort of thing- he wanted to know if it hurt, which of course it did, but he stayed downstairs when I actually did the waxing.
26my boyfriend actually likes to pluck my eyebrows and take out my blackheads cuz he said i wasn't good at it! my face has been so well-groomed in the time we've been going out.
27Sometimes I leave the door open when I run in to tinkle and my husband walked by and said " you look like your waiting on a bus" and busted out laughing! That's our life and I love it!
28My boyfriend feels comfortable doing just about everything with me as well as I am for him .... i dunno about that nipple hair removal though !
29How about when people pick at their feet, ick. I don't want to see your toenails flickingup everywhere. Do it on your own down time thanks.
30I just have to ask. The people who say its gross to pop your others zit. Are you married? How long have you been with the person? I am 29 and I have been with my husband 11 years married 5 and there is NOTHING at this point that could gross me out. He and I are HUMAN. monkeys pick each other why can people? Mind you ONLY my husband could. I wouldnt imagine like a friend.
31i am being perfectly honest in asking this.... some women get nipple hair??? OMG! I had no idea. I guess I am VERY lucky in that regard.
32nipple hair? ok that is just weird!!! I keep most things private.
33This is a HILARIOUS board! Thanks for giving me a headsup whenever I do get married!
34Nipple hair
35LMAO! The zip popping couples! Hilarious. I def wouldn't want to do that in front of my man. I used to have a guy platonic friend that did it in front of whoever and it was gross.
Here's another couple of things I won't do in front of a guy:
-remove a boogie from my nose
36-use my tongue scraper (a doo hicky that removes the bacteria from your tongue and looks so nasty)
I've been with my husband for almost 4 years and there are no barriers. They were there when we first started dating but pretty much once we got engaged and started living together, all bets were off. Call me crazy, but I enjoy popping zits and blackheads, and unfortunately my husband won't let me at his at all!
37I am sorry but some things need to be kept private. I would not do any of those things in front of my bf. I can not even go to the bathroom (number 2) when my bf is in the apartment. I am not even a girly girl but some things need to remain private.
38Hahahaha
I rarely get pimples, only when I was a teen, and now, if I am stressed. One time, I got one on my back and it was very painful. My guy used to work in a hospital years ago and his mother was a nurse. He called her about some type of extracting creme and she told him he needed to pop it when he described it. She said it was more of cyst and I risked infection. I was totally freaking out. My ex would study my back because he was into that, but luckily, I never fell under his pinchers.
So my guy preps like a fricken surgeon. He was not anxious to do so, but he did it. He was so fricken careful and cleaned it up so good, I kid you not, it was gone like it was never there two days later.
He gets a blackhead that looks really dark and tell him to go take care of it or I will. He freaks!
And for some reason, I am really shy about tweezing in front of him. But he loves to watch me get ready. He always says how amazed he is that it takes me so little time compared to his ex. And he'll fart or whatever in front of me. But there are places I just can't go.
39to the girl who said she cant go #2 when her boyfriend is in the apt. Well ummm don't get married a week of doing that alone could kill you!
40HA Ha. This is the best article ever! People just crack me up. My husband and I have been together for years, married for more than a year now and dating for 5, and we're as comfortable with each other as a couple that's been married for 20 years. I go potty with the door open, he hates it thought, heaven forbid if he has to pee while I'm getting ready(only one bathroom right now) but no number 2, ew.
41I'm a horrible zip popper person. I pop my own and I pop my husbands, he hates when I do it but when he gets one on his back it's gross but I have to do it.
My hubby totally helps me out with waxing, although I won't touch his zits!
42Um Mis Matilda...living together for years is pretty much the same as being married. I still do not think that making a stinky mess is appropriate for someone who has sex with me to wittness. For anyone to think that doing these things i.e. popping spots and such in the view of others is just wrong. Why wold you be attracted to someone who does not care what you do in front of them? You mine as well just date/marry your brother or sister.
43Whenever I squeeze my blackheads I'm in the bathroom with the door locked. I did get a huge zit in my ear once though (disgusting, I know!) and I had to have my hubby stick a needle in it so I could get it out. That was a little embarrassing!
44I don't let him see me brush my teeth! I just know I don't do it like they do in the movies with their mouths all closed! My mouth is totally open...toothpaste running down my chin...totally disgusting but that's how I get my teeth the cleanest!
45Um....eyebrow plucking. I have bushes so it can look like a dog just shedded on the counter XD Rather not do that with him unless he does his too.
also....cleaning out the crud that gets stuck in between your toenails and your skin >.
46I can't poop with him in the next room, sometimes even in the house! I have a fear of him knowing I took a crap, smelling it afterwards or hearing it. I know I'll get over it eventually. Farting too, I'd die if he ever heard me fart : x
47This is so weird... I don't see how couples can say, "Oh, we're so happy because we pop our zits together!!!" and act as though other couples are inferior, or less 'in tune' to one another simply due to their modesty and hygienic barriers.
Zit popping is no good unless you've got an extractor - and I would never dream of letting SOMEONE ELSE pop something I myself shouldn't. Ew ew ew ew ew.
48I don't think there is anything wrong with sharing your grooming secrets with your hubby. Are you going to go your whole life pretending you don't wax your bikini line or pop your pimples? Unless your husband is really stupid he's going to find out and then what are you going to do?
49I love my bathroom-alone-time. I lock the door so he can't burst in, and I usually get ready before he's awake!
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